Debbie asks: “Why do men act so weird?”
Before I respond, some background: Debbie is a very successful lady. She owns her own business. She is currently living the life she’s always wanted. She feels free, fulfilled, and happy. She is also, in my fair opinion, a looker. She’s healthy, fit, and beautiful. She meditates. I mean, come on, she’s SUCH a catch!!
She’s going back and forth over email with a new man. And he’s acting weird! He’s coming on strong, and then stepping waaaay back. He’s asking intimate questions that make Debbie feel slightly caught off-guard. Debbie doesn’t quite trust him, but she’s interested in getting to know him better. Hmmmmm…..
I answer: Dating is all about finding your match, right? And when a shiny, confident, all-around awesome lady like you, Debbie, dates, 2 Things Will Occur:
1) The men that don’t match up–those that have to stand on tippy toes just to meet you at eye-level, emotionally–will flounder about, make mistakes, and just act weird, or disappear altogether.
2) The men that DO match up–those that do meet you at eye-level or higher, emotionally–will be thrilled that someone else has arrived in their small(ish) pool of eligible folks.
Cliff Notes Version: The shiny, confident, all around-awesome men will show up. Everyone else will just be weird.
Debbie follows: How do I know if the man in question is in Category #1 or #2?
I answer a question with a question: Ask yourself, “How do I feel in his presence?” If you feel awkward, self-doubting, or confused, he’s in Category #1. If you feel at-ease, settled at the core of your belly, and yet giddy around the edges, he’s definitely in Category #2.
***Readers, what do you think? Why do men act so darn weird?