The Dating Project, the newest segment here at The Inside Voice! We’re talking to sexy, successful and smarty-pants women to find out what they really think and feel about dating. Because being single doesn’t mean you’re ALONE.
Let’s meet Rachel M!***
1. Age and Occupation?
29 – Interior Designer
2. Are you currently in a relationship?
3. Place in Order of Importance: Work, Friends, Love, Other.
Friends, Love, Work, Other
4. Can you spot any patterns in past relationships?
I tend to date people who are not secure in their career. They are more focused on themselves and their own future as opposed to moving forward as a couple.
5. Rate yourself, on a scale 1-10:
Self Confidence- 6
6. What barriers keep you from meeting a guy you like?
Looking for someone in the same religion/ethnic group as myself, being in a work environment where most people are married and only know other “marrieds” as well as being a small Jewish population within my industry, as well as having a core group of friends that don’t know men to introduce me to.
7. What does your dating life look like now?
8. What attributes are most attractive to you in a partner?
Compassion, Low-maintenance, Fun, Relaxed
9. a) What does your perfect love life look like?
Constant smiling, always trying something new.
b) In a word (or words), what does that scenario feel like?
Comfortable. Not having to work hard at the relationship.
10. Last question, do you believe in “The One”?
I believe that there could be more than one that could be the ideal match that you could see across the room and just know they are right.
Thanks Rachel M!
Inside Voice Wrap Up: OK, first thing you need to know about Rachel M–She’s a no bullshit kinda lady. She’s beyond smart, and super clear about her situation. I love that. When I sat down with her, she’d just come from a long day at work. Work is important to Rachel, and she’s really good at it. And over and over again, she told me stories of men she’d dated, who weren’t quite settled in their own career. Every time, that uncertainty lead to their break up. For her, and for many women who want to settle down, meeting a man who is already plugging away at their chosen career is a priority. I mean, how many times can you date someone for 6 months, only to find out that they want to “find themselves,” in Australia, without you? So yes, Rachel has learned her lesson. No more uncertain career types.
Rachel wants a partner, and believes that it will happen for her. She doesn’t have a fantasy of a man sweeping her off her feet and changing her life. Rather, she wants the life she has, only shared. She’s so cool. With a bump in self-confidence, a shopping spree, and maybe a lil’ a summer fling, I think this girl will be ready to spot her ideal match across the room, and know it’s right.
***Some names have been changed, some haven’t. Each woman has the option to use her own name or choose her fantasy pseudonym. I’m not telling which ones are which. Hear these women’s voices. Listen to their stories. They’re just like you!