Hello all!
I’m so proud of this article! It’s the first of many installments on The Elephant Journal. Because yogis need dating tips! Enjoy!!!
lovelovelove,
Daniella
Tag Archives: Dating Tips
8 Ways to STOP Worrying About Scaring Him Away!
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You’ve got a new guy. You’ve been dating for a little less than a month. You’re passed the “will there be a next date?” phase. And you’re pretty sure you’re hanging out this weekend. OK, so it’s only been 27 days (who’s counting?!) but it already feels like you’ve been together forever.
You want to love him up, declare your commitment, and tell him how much he means to you.
But you don’t. Because you’re worried you’ll scare him away.
How do you STOP worrying about scaring him away? START doing all the things that scare you about scaring him off:
1. Tell him how great he looks in that jacket.
2. Kiss him in the middle of the street, in front of his friends.
3. Invite him out to dinner with your best girlfriend and her new fiance.
4. Hold hands.
5. Initiate Sex.
6. Share a personal story about yourself, one that only your BFF knows about.
7. Ask him about his dreams–career and otherwise.
8. Whisper in his ear, “You’re very special to me.”
Remember, you are a nice, loving creature. That’s why your guy likes you so much. Give it up freely, and enjoy all the delicious, gooey, romance that follows! And most definitely report back.
Filed under Inside Your Love Life
Waiting for a Personal Invitation
Every August, I head up to the Catskills for a weekend-long yoga retreat. This isn’t just any retreat, it’s the Goddess Retreat–all ladies, all ages, some newer to yoga, and some practicing for lifetimes. Despite our differences, we have one thing in common–we all want fill up our energetic tank, so to speak, so we can return to the city more refreshed, and better than when we left.
On these retreats, all the ladies are encouraged to bring their specific talents to the mix. Some sing, some cook, some whip up all-natural facial masks, while some run workshops on storytelling and writing. I’ve always enjoyed these eclectic offerings, but never contributed.
That is, until I got a personal invitation.
I got the gentle nudge from the Goddess Supreme to share my good stuff with the group. And from the moment she proposed it, I knew it was right. Of course–I would offer dating coaching sessions!! How perfect! How appropriate! HOW FUN!
But more importantly, how in the world had I not seen this before?!
Well, if you’re anything like I am, you might be waiting for a personal invitation for more things than you realize. And if you’re as lucky as I was in this example, you’ll get your invitation and you’ll run with it.
But why wait for an invitation? If you have something you’re thrilled about, the invitation is always there.
It’s the same with dating. Are you waiting to be noticed? Are you waiting for the guy across the room to approach you? Or are you waiting for your current boyfriend to tell you how awesome you are before you can really believe it?
WHY?! You already know you’re awesome. Instead, why not go out knowing that men want to meet you, get to know you, and date you.
No invitation necessary!
Filed under Inside the Yoga Studio, Inside Your Love Life
Top 10 Dating Tips: From Me, To Me.
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Hello my loves! I’m so ridiculously thrilled to present the Top 1o Dating Tips: From Me. To Me.!
Here’s the Deal: I have the honor of interviewing the bestest women on the planet for The Dating Project. And at the very end of these interviews, when the pen is down, the book is closed, the interview is ov-ah, I’ve been slipping in one more teensy-weensy little question:
“What Advice Would You Give Your 10-Year-Younger Self?”
Here’s what our women said:
1. Don’t force the relationship you’re in now because you’re scared of the future.
2. Let go and see what the future holds.
3. There is plenty of time.
4. Don’t forget to shave your legs. You never know what will happen.
5. Don’t waste your energy getting upset with your ex-boyfriend. Just leave.
6. Sarcasm rarely works the way you want it to. Just be honest instead.
7. “If you would be loved, be lovable.” I got that in a fortune cookie. It still holds true.
8. It gets so much better, you wouldn’t even believe it if I told you.
9. Learn to “date yourself.”
10. Just say “thank you” when someone gives you a compliment.
Filed under Inside Your Love Life
All For You
It’s all for you, my sweet reader. Everything I write, every dating tip I give, and every personal story I share, it’s for you. I want to meet you, move you, and change your day, maybe just a little.
And I’m looking directly at adorable you when I say I’m sorry for The Inside Voice silence over the past week. Don’t think it’s gone unnoticed. I’ve been working away on some really exciting things for you, and getting them all shiny and sparkly for their proper presentation. I’m telling ya, I can’t wait to share…SOON!
To prove it, here’s a pic of me sitting at the desk hard at work, producing gems.
But for now, hold tight. Keep reading and share with your friends. And for the love of god, tell me what you love, and don’t love, and what you’d like to hear more of. Because you and I, we’re just getting started.
Love,
Daniella
Filed under Inside Your Friendships, Inside Your Love Life
What My Ex-Boyfriend #3 Taught Me: A Series Of Bright Sides
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My Ex-Boyfriend #3 taught me:
I think my career is important. And I want the man I’m dating to think so too.
I rarely talked about my job with any of my boyfriends, until ex-boyfriend #3. And when I did, I was thrilled to find out that not only did he listen, but engaged me in long, creative, thought-provoking conversations about my big career plans. It felt great to have professional goals, and even better to share those goals with the person I was dating!
Filed under Inside Your Career
7 Clues That Your Date is Head-Over-Heels-In-Smit with You.
Picture this:
You’re on a date, and everything seems to be going swell. You look gorgeous, your date is handsome, and the conversation is moving right along. But how do you really know if your date is head over heels in smit with you?
Here’s how to find out:
- If you arrive 5 minutes early, and he’s already waiting at the bar…
- If he happily told you about his 3-year-old niece’s birthday party, at which he was a clown…
- If he is awkward and nervous when moving in for the kiss…
- If he holds your hand under the table…
- If he immediately sits next to you in the booth, instead of across…
- If he brings over your cocktail and automatically orders a glass of water with it…
- If he remembers what you wore the first time he saw you…
He’s Head-Over-Heels-In-Smit with you!!!
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Filed under Inside Your Love Life
Top 10 Dating Tips: From Me, To Me.
Hello my loves! I’m so ridiculously thrilled to present the Top 1o Dating Tips: From Me. To Me.!
Here’s the Deal: I have the honor of interviewing the bestest women on the planet for The Dating Project. And at the very end of these interviews, when the pen is down, the book is closed, the interview is ov-ah, I’ve been slipping in one more teensy-weensy little question:
“What Advice Would You Give Your 10-Year-Younger Self?”
Here’s what our women said:
1. You’re not selfish.
2. You are cool.
3. That feeling in your gut? It’s right.
4. Mom understands more than you think. You can call her for advice.
5. Take care of yourself.
6. It’s OK to splurge on dinner and clothing.
7. Stop saying “I’m sorry.”
8. Enjoy being single, it’s gonna be like this for a while. But not forever.
9. When you think back to this relationship, remember the good things too.
10. For god sakes, let your hair grow. Men like it better, and so do you.
Filed under Inside Your Love Life
7 Magic Ways to De-Stress Before A Date
Date night! Excited? Yup! Stressed? Well, maybe just a little.
Dates can be stressful. You’re meeting someone new. Even the most outgoing lady can get a touch of stage fright on first dates. There’s no script. And you could spill your drink. You could splatter spaghetti sauce on your white pants. The conversation could stop dead in it’s tracks.
Oh yes, it’s date night. And the only thing to do is acknowledge it fully, prepare as best as you can, and treat yourself well. Here’s how:
7 Magic Ways to De-Stress Before A Date
1. Eat a fabulous lunch, with dessert.
2. Stop by the make-up counter, and test drive a new mascara. Practice batting your eyelashes in the mirror.
3. Review your social calendar for the next few days. Remind yourself that you are loved, and wildly popular.
4. Resist the urge to call your mom. Instead, in the comfort of your own home, say out-loud what you’d say to your mom. Hear your own voice in the air.
5. Turn on the radio. Dance wildly, all Fly Girls style, to the next song you hear. You should be gasping for air by the time the song is done.
6. Get a manicure. And spring for the 10 minute back massage. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to get the kinks out of your shoulders.
7. Smile a lot. You’re gonna have fun!
Filed under Inside Your Love Life
TGIF! Whatcha got PLANNED?
It’s Friday Night! Do you know where you’ll be at 10PM? If your answer is, “Uh, I haven’t even had lunch yet, I can’t think that far in advance,” then you’re probably underestimating the power of planning.
Dating takes planning. Lot’s of it.
Don’t get me wrong, I love spontaneity. But there’s a far better chance that you’ll be out and about this weekend–smiling, flirting, and charming the pants off that adorable guy from your best friend’s office–if you plan on it beforehand.
So…whatcha got planned? One date? Three? None? Are you polishing up your profile on ‘How Bout We’? Are you planning a little friend-date at a bar? How ’bout swinging by a party that your crush will be at?
Go ahead, make a plan. Plan on meeting someone great. It won’t jinx anything, I promise.
Filed under Inside Your Love Life